NotitiesF.E.A.R. - Face Everything and Rise!
Justin Giovinazzo
In "F.E.A.R. - Face Everything and Rise!", the author discusses the importance of identifying and confronting fears to achieve personal growth and emotional well-being. By examining fears related to loss and unmet desires, individuals can uncover deeper issues and resolve emotional discomfort. The text emphasizes that self-examination and reality checks can help in eliminating these fears for a more fulfilling life.
Fear is much like that splinter. It’s wedged within the memory bank of your subconscious mind. It may surface as anger, sadness, doubt, worry, self-pity, or one of the many emotions that cause us harm. But, unless we discover the fear and dig down deep to discover it, it will continue to cause us discomfort. Fear must be identified, and removed from the root. The process sounds easy on paper, but there is discomfort with digging in there to remove it. It eventually brings a comfort and peace that make the process so worth it. (Location 31)
Sometimes, I feel people with-out substance abuse issues can use some of the principles that us in recovery use to help solve the emotional discomfort that we receive as we deal with life on life’s terms. (Location 50)
So let's take a look at many of the fears that many people have. -Fear of abandonment -Fear of rejection -Fear of failure -Fear of success -Fear of being emotionally hurt -Fear of judgment -Fear of life -Fear of loneliness -Fear of detachment This list can go on, but what it really boils down to is two main fears. You can ask yourself: What am I scared to lose that I already have? Or, what is it that I am scared that I will not get? I either have a fear of losing something that I already have, or I am scared that I will not get something that I want. If you take the time to examine any fear and use those two questions, you will see what the exact source of the fear is. Then, examine your fear with the reality of the situation. (Location 65)
Now, you are probably saying to yourself, “he just broke down the whole book in the first chapter.” The answer is, “Yes! Yes I did!” Why should I waste your time breaking down a “self help book” and dragging out the solution when it is easy. And, it will give you great benefits if you start to apply it at once. My life is based on helping people get to the solution fast so that they can go about life, living it to the fullest. (Location 77)
Self examination is a great way to discover the source of the fear. Get a pen and paper and find somewhere quiet to sit. Ask yourself what fear is attached to your problem. Sit back, reflect, and ask yourself what it is that you are really scared of. Once you identify the fear, examine that fear using reality. Is it realistic to allow that fear to cause you so much harm? Is this fear real? Are you making assumptions? Is it your imagination running wild? Are you projecting or "future tripping?" Can you change anything? (Location 114)
Have you ever been around someone who constantly complains and vents about everything. That person is miserable and no one wants to be around them. The negative energy is contagious. I think most of us have been that person at one time or another. That is an example of that unresolved fear wedged in somewhere. That person is usually scratching the surface of the frustrations. But, it’s never the things they complain about. It's usually something much deeper. (Location 137)
Things have always gotten better for me the moment I look at my fears, and I start to work on identifying and eliminating those fears. (Location 142)
There is a saying that goes like this, “Fear knocked on the door. Faith answered the door and no one was there.” An acronym for fear is false evidence appearing real. (Location 144)